I'm 25F, been with my husband (30M) since 2018. My grandma cheated on my Grandpa for years but they reconciled, my aunt herself had multiple emotional affairs but is still married to my uncle. TRIGGER WARNINGS: revenge porn, addiction, domestic abuse, manipulation, sexual assault, rape, stalking harassment, mentions of depression, death of a parent, imminent death of a Update 2 June 11, 2024. My 29f husband 31m threw away all my food because I'm a "cow". Originally posted to r/trueoffmychest. Hello, Brett. I'm talking to my lawyer to change the custody agreement too. This is a repost. How magnanimous of you OOP. • Blood work came back and although we can't go home yet. Thank you all so much for being part of it. Original Post: February 15, 2023. I have been with my husband (39 M), since we were 15. Mood spoiler: distressing story to read. Meaning he ain’t getting shit. He left me and our divorce is pending. Good things can still happen even if you're sad. If your girlfriend/boyfriend is always calling and texting asking where you are, who you're with, what you're doing. English is not my first language and I tried my best to correct any necessary formatting issues. Originally posted to r/relationship_advice. My husband (M35) and I (F32) have been married for seven years. Thanks again for your best wishes and the support I received. Please tell your husband that I say hi and also I am sorry for ruining your marriage. TLDR; confronted my husband about the journal (with backup). I’m not to touch any of that. We both instantly felt the same attraction, on our We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. TL;DR: My husband's group chat refers to me as "S. But within these 9 years there has been a drastic change in our economic status. There's been a lot that has happened and there's no way to mention it all without writing a novel, so if I miss something or someone wants to know more, I'll try to answer in comments. Update 8 hours later: she was sentenced to 10 years in prison Update 12 hours later: my husband is still defending her so I divorced him Update 24 hours later: MIL died of covid in prison, also I got remarried to a great guy and my new MIL is awesome UPDATE 2 * — kids went to bed. Recently, about a year ago, my husband's office hired a new employee, let's call her Jess (25f). Final Update: AIW - To make my husband change his gym. The prenup covers my husband’s assets up until we got married. This is a new mini update to a story already posted in BORU in February 2023. - 18 January 2022 (text via Rareddit) I posted a few months ago about the creepy party my husband’s friend hosted. It was my birthday party, and his cousin was drunk/hitting on her/grabbing her even though she's engaged. I ran out in shock. Maria complained that my husband is being rude and unhelpful to her. 23. I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Arsenicandtea. First more clarifications: Update 3: I had a phone conversation with my aunt today (my egg donor’s sister) and she told me there is a family history of cheating in our family on their side of the family. There was a previous BORU post here with the first two posts compiled by u/swankycelery . Then the day I move in I learn Mina is married. I have this itch in my brain that I need to scratch. I am NOT OP. Mar 22, 2024. TRIGGER WARNING: Verbal abuse, emotional abuse and manipulation, withholding food, infant abuse, body shaming. Hey Reddit, I need to share this story because I'm still shaking from what happened. I (24F) married my husband (28M) about a year and a half ago. TW: >!Mentions of attempted suicide and, in the last update, SA - not done or attempted, but threatened. They are expecting a fourth one. I have been able to engage the services of a great divorce lawyer and I was advised to not let my Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of “Eat, Pray, Love”, is possibly one of the nastiest adulterers to ever humble-brag an absolutely tone-deaf NY Times article. My ex-best friend went through a really, genuinely hard time. Instead of trying to change the situation at work or trying to help her husband with his depression, she cheeks out of the relationship with a fun new work friend. My (25F) husband (29M) called me by his dead’s wife name twice. I need to rant. Original post: My husband cannot accept I don’t like I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Salty_Landscape2703. Original Post June 30, 2023. FIL was a POS young man and took notice that his youngest son looked more like him than my husband ever did. After that I paid for my food and left. Eventually things started to get better for them (thankfully). And you aren’t getting shit from me because that prenup that you signed 5 years ago…”yeah you are fucked”. Editor’s Note: OOP is likely to make a mistake on the updates. Honestly, the thought of having all those things on my own without my husband is so FREEING. Firstly, thank you all for your kindness and for all the great advice you’ve given me. A lot has happened since. TrueOffMyChest_TA. I have never met this guy in my life. He comes from a wealthy family. Original (31 August 22) I never want to have sex again, like ever, but I do not want to lose or hurt my husband. So I knew it was true. I (39F) have been divorced from my ex-husband (41M) for 9 years. He’s going to step away from our shared business and stay out of my life. Thus far, I have gotten a pay raise at work, and come the new Update #2 - Nov 18, 2023. Her saying that she knows what she is broke my heart a little. Hello Reddit, It has been months since my original post and update. My husband knows I hate surprises and the holidays are hard for me because I want to know what's in the box. Original Post: July 3, 2023. This morning I got a call from my mother in law that my husband has been in jail for the past couple of days and only got out this morning but the charges weren’t dropped. Like just covered in takeout containers and old drinks and such. I was called cold and callous for wanting to put my foot down. I can't escape. ADMIN MOD. He lived next door and we just clicked - it was like a fairytale. . I have some great news. husband is physically abusive. Trigger Warnings: child neglect, verbal abuse, emotional abuse and manipulation, teenage pregnancy, deadbeat parent. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Me and my husband had been married for over 10 years and we have a beautiful child together. Confused. My husband would often complain about how stupid she is. It's been a couple of months since then and according to my son they're now separated. Yes, he went to the funeral, which I was very uncomfortable with. I locked myself in the bathroom. Award. Out of respect. I had posted a month ago regarding me requesting my husband to change his gym after I learned the few of the women in his gym were flirting with him and the overall hookup culture in his friends group. Since starting out we have made financial security a Original Post: My husband is the worst sexual partner I've ever had Been together a few years, we had sex before marriage so this wasn't a surprise. Originally posted by u/lowstakes_orisit in r/AmItheAsshole June 28, '22, updated Oct 7, '22. T. New Update marked with *****. Originally posted to r/Marriage. I somehow mustered my strength and called my friend to pick me up and just don't listen to Dave. They also have small children. The newest update will be marked with *****. My husband is self made however. I did not like the vibe and I did not feel the group was fit for The term "tulip mania" is now used to refer to large economic bubbles that are created due to the deviation of prices based on intrinsic value. I took a lot of it to heart and made good progress for my daughter and myself. I asked him not to go again, and he just gave me this cold, expressionless stare. Small Update in Comments: February 23, 2023 (2 days later) I just wanna thank y'all for the support. Totally agree. Original post by u/Educational-Law-226 Originally posted to r/AITAH [New Update] - Husband overhears OOP… Trigger warning: talk of abuse and sexual assault, attempted suicide. I had the pleasure of seeing his reaction as soon as he walked in since there’s a perfect view of the front door from the Originally posted to r/Marriage. I later learned that he was my husband's childhood friend. 11, 2023. Update to- My (41f) husband (52m) has a second family on the side. My husband posted my body online. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Original Post: September 1, 2023. trigger warnings: emotional, physical and sexual abuse. Everything seemed great. Well. He is very violent. ) I'm not sure why she didn't cool it on the wedding talk with someone she had no intention of inviting, or even just bring it up with me and explain why I'm Again, my husband made comments about how she is always half-naked in the gym and asked him to spot her. The first time I saw my husband I was a freshman in high school, he was a freshman in college. Ive lost feelings for my husband, and probably did a long time ago. You can read my previous BORU here. Needed advice because my mil has been manipulating my husband into giving up nearly all his money since he was able to work, based on a “promise” he made at age 9, because the household was perpetually near collapse, to hear her tell it, but there was always money for a new pet almost every month, eating out literally every day (of course Basically Sam and a second friend, Mitchell went over to Brian's place to check on him after he ignored calls and texts for a few days after the game night. So, I went to my doctor's appointment yesterday and the doctor that checked on me was a total ass. For concluded-only updates, use the CONCLUDED flair. ") didn't make things any better. For a while now my husband, John, has been getting more and more angry over little things and generally moody and distant. This is an update to my previous BORU post here. My (33f) husband (34m) and I had our first baby back in June of last year. That’s when I got home early and heard them. Update on surprising my husband with his favorite homemade meal - Oct 2, 2022 @ ~9:30 pm. I haven’t told the husband no, I thought his wife should be the one telling him. Her husband Kurt (25M) is nice, but he didn't leave. We had our first meeting with the lawyers today. One thing I have always thought made our marriage so strong was our friendship with each other and our trust in one another, although now my husband seems to think otherwise. Title: To my husband's female colleague. Original post. I'm pretty sure he planted one of those apple tags in my car. I'm not sure if anyone remembers my original post but I got some PMs asking to update and I found this place really helpful before. For a bit of a background, I’ve met my husband four years ago through the same work industry. jealous husband-to-be, associating me with her past grief, but considering everything I know about her and our history I'm sure it's not that. Little note: My brothers are reading your messages and comments, they want you to know we know how lucky we are. Me and my ex share custody of our kids. My husband did apologize for slapping me and continues to express regret, but he can't take it back. Husband (33M) and (33f) have been married for 10 years, together since college. my [31F] husband [32M] beat me because my Her own husband apologized to me, said he wouldn't have agreed come forward for adoption if he knew the truth. My husband forgot the past 8 years and wants a divorce Jan 28, 2023. We broke up shortly after high school graduation but got back together a year afterwards. Update: My husband cheated so I told everyone. He has gotten me to climax before, but I'd say its a 1:15 ratio on when he climaxes to when I do. No, but maybe a tldr at the beginning, for people that don't want to read the whole loop, like in this update "tldr: Ex husband still a piece of garbage, hasn't seen the kids since February, OOP hired a lawyer, at first ex husband didn't want to hire counseling but was forced due to me taking him to court to change custody and child support My husband being his wonderful self went to speak to his boss today about arranging his working hours to accommodate that when we get to go home. The blanket is so soft and I have made multiple comments about how I would This post has been flaired as confirmed fake. I hope she reads these comments because she needs more people telling her she isn’t vile. I tried my best to support them through it emotionally and financially for years and years. I felt guilty for my husband but I really couldn’t do anything but try to be healthy again as soon as possible. My best friend lived with us for 1 years and they started sleeping together towards the end of that year. he sat on the couch watching youtube videos for three hours and didn’t say a word to me. OOP. ) I saw other posts on here of others in a similar spot, and I have done a few things over the last OP's husband and best friend have been cheating on her for 5 years. My husband has always had trouble paying attention, but I never thought it would come to this. Sister’s husband is. It was posted here. For concluded-only updates, use the CONCLUDED flair or subscribe to r/BestofBoRU. I want full custody of my children after he went and beat up his mistress’s husband within an inch of his life and ended up in jail. Update - 09 Jul 2023 We are taking a break. And have fallen for S hard. Threats of child abuse<. Deleted and recovered. Aita for making my ex husband look bad in front of his family. When my friend arrived she charged at Dave. Original Post - February 2, 2024. Edit: I'm not sure what's going on, but none of my comments are showing up. I am not The OOP, OOP is u/throwra34_69. I feel wrecked with guilt. I stalked my husband for two years before I formally met him. . Update Post 2: February 19, 2024 (4 days later, 9 from OG post) Final update- I changed my locks, figured if he’d get the law Involved I’d use pregnancy brain and being forgetful to give him a spare set. My husband hates me. My husband doesn’t know that I know what he’s up to. g. She went to couples counseling with the guy she was breaking up her marriage over while she was in reconciliation therapy with her husband. /s Backtracking in her update ("It's really only 2-3 times a week; 4 was an exception. My (40 F) parents, dad (63 M) and mom (60 F), have been married for 43 years. My ex-husband and I are in our early 40s and late 30s and have been divorced for almost 3 years now. " which my husband says is for Super Terrific, I don't fully believe he's telling the truth. He has obviously had a change of heart and I’m not gonna be there to witness him falling out of love with me. Original Post: December 21, 2023. She was stressed at work, her husband was depressed. Note: I have marked the newest update with 🚨🚨🚨 below so you can skip the older updates posts if you don't need a refresher. Then yes I think you should address it to them or end the relationship. He sees all my movement. Things were… not good with me and my husband at the time of this post. Brian did eventually let them in and they said his apartment was very, very, nasty. 5. I'm still processing this all, and I just need a little time. She was cremated and my husband was given a little bit of her ashes in a small urn the size of a pill bottle. Trigger Warnings: child abuse/neglect; threatening behavior; infidelity; harassment. Nothing I said or did made my husband believe me. I do not know your Reddit name but you finally gave me CHECK FLAIR to determine if you want to read an update. Baby girl is safe with me. Itl be maybe 3-4 times a week. I also flaired this as "New Update". OOP is right. The guy told my husband that he didn’t know at first that I was married but as soon as he found out he contacted my now ex. Trigger Warning: mental illness; stalking. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. The mere thought is painful. I have been with my husband Josh since we were seniors in high school. 6K votes, 742 comments. I’ll fix the grammar later, fake names and throwaway So my (36f) ex husband Tom (35m) left me for his “work wife” Tammy (25f) two years ago, I never liked her even before I found out about their relationship My husband was giving me the usual "It's not what it looks like" "I am sorry. I (49 F) had an ex husband named Jake (53). MOOD SPOILER: hopeful but infuriating. We have a three-year-old girl and a newborn boy. My husband said he would make more effort. ONGOING. I have respect for him. 7 month ago user u/TeenyTelly (also NOT the OOP) posted this with the first update and a slightly different title, I will include the first Post down below but here is a link: Original. People were very nice to me and offered me really good advice and lot's of emotional support and needed criticism. My husband's brother (BIL) continued to stay with him while I stayed at a hotel. then he came into the bedroom and said “i’m going to bed” CHECK FLAIR to determine if you want to read an update. I again took her side and told my husband to be helpful and nice to her, as she is my best friend. Original Post Oct 16, 2023. Newest update is marked with ****. Originally posted to r/TrueOffMyChest. If this really is you, it’s a pleasure to meet you. My husband’s aunt gifted our son a lovely chunky knitted blanket. My husband got married to his new wife and they have 3 kids in total (9m, 5m, 5f). I'm not really upset by it because I really love him, just felt like getting it out in the open. I've been struggling with this for over a year. Update #4: Court went better than expected - March 24, 2024. Have you even told your coworker to tell her husband she cheated on him or you will?" STBX: Not a coward. OOP, I dub thee Captain Oblivious. Some of the things he's done include kicking my best friend out of our house when she was here visiting (this was a few months ago). "Your wife asked you to tell the husband but you're too much of a coward to do it. CHECK FLAIR to determine if you want to read an update. Original Post: February 22, 2024. Usually I can figure it out, or have a good guess, based on the shape/size. She grabbed some of my things and we left. OOP is u/strugglingwife1234 . I am not the Original Poster, that is u/ThrowAwaygjdjd and we are wishing her the best. Your community has been very kind to my husband, and I am grateful for you giving my husband this joy. Update - rareddit Nov 28, 2016. I sincerely apologize for taking so long to return to Reddit and write an update to this. That’s the problem! She doesn’t! Did her sister’s husband tell her that it was her fault? OOP needs to go to therapy. Mood Spoiler: OOP is going to be ok. My lawyer pulled through for me and my ex wants this divorce to be over with as soon as possible. " "It was a mistake". Trigger Warnings: emotional infidelity, emotional manipulation. TWs: physical abuse, domestic violence, graphic depictions of physical abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse, past child abuse (mentioned) Mood spoiler: hopeful. For those who don’t know, this post was originally written at the end February of 2020. He is a cop. I have six siblings 42 F, 38 F, 34 F, 20 M, 20 M, 18 M. I (38F) have a 9 year old son Max and 6 year old daughter Olivia with my ex-husband Dan (35M). (There were some other theories suggested e. UPDATE – My (28F) husband (29M) took me to a creepy party his friend (28M) hosted and now I feel uncomfortable around his friends. I got pregnant at 17 and we moved in with my parents. I don't feel unsafe, just unloved- just not enough. After I finished laughing I said to my dear husband that the divorce papers will be delivered to you by tonight. They appreciate the positivity, want you to know it gets better (those in the same boat), and you are all welcome to our "cult". We have 2 kids (12m, 9F). Daniela, GO FUCK YOURSELF. She said no/resisted, and my husband got offended, so he kicked her out. UPDATE 2. “I ruined my mom’s life and reputation”. So when he got wasted ( back when he was an alcoholic), he'd beat the snot out of my MIL and my husband under the assumption my MIL cheated and my husband wasn't his. Everything from gender identity struggles to unemployment and homelessness. (Please read my first post if you don’t remember me) So I told my husband that I have had enough. I (32f) am married to my husband (33m) for 5 years now. My husband posted my body online (New Update) I am not The OOP, OOP is u/brokenhearted-temp. He even apologized to my husband. Original Post - February 26, 2024. I wouldn't say this type is controlling behavior. The guy contacted him and he had nudes etc of me on his phone. Mood Spoiler: frightening but hopefully hopeful. After review, there is nothing to indicate they were trying and failing to quote or link to existing comments made by OOP since none of them match OOP's comment history, and it is more likely they failed to switch accounts. It might not be physical cheating, but her daughter abandoned the relationship as it got hard and her husband Layla (19F) is a sophomore, and Mina (23F) is a college super senior. I found out what they study, what they like, what they hate, what they're allergic to, their ground rules, etc. This is kind of a small update, but I was excited and remembered this account, so I wanted to say that you don't have to be healed for things to be better. I started with antidepressants that killed my sexual needs. But tonight, things almost took a turn for the worse. I was supposed to see them 2 weeks after my original post but I got out of it. I've called the police. I had finished cooking and setting the table a mere 10 minutes before he got home so I started cleaning up the kitchen as I waited. Recently his friend asked him if he could stay at our house for a couple of days due to financial difficulties, we agreed. I'm worried I'm being dramatic to keep overanalyzing his reaction when I asked and thinking about what else it could mean. Original Original posted in r/TrueOffMyChest. Update: Husband (36M) got weird about physical affection from me (34F) and things escalated badly - 29 October 2021 So - things came to a head, but not in the way I was expecting. He broke in late last night, I was able to contact the police before I confronted him but due to location I knew it would be a bit. Trigger Warning: infidelity; Andrew Tater Tot idiocy. We have three kids (Kyle 18 F, Karter 21 M and Knox 25 M). I am truly grateful! The past couple weeks have been a whirlwind of emotions. Original Post Dec. Help? I'm completely dependent on my husband. I (29F) am married to a man who we shall call John (30. Help? - Sun Mar 27 01:21:57 2022 UTC husband is physically abusive. S has told me he feels differently about my husband, he had no idea he was like that and has actually made a few comments towards him about it, but as usual, way above my husbands head. Originally posted to r/offmychest. My husband looks nothing like his mom and nothing like his dad. I had finally had enough and approached him about separation. Ex lied to him about me to get him to adopt my son. The world, therefore after, fell apart. And she still can't understand why her husband feels like a human dildo when she so graciously spends whole minutes initiating sex. OOP has since deleted her account. I’m entitled to 50% of everything he made since we got married. He was a decent guy. I’ve got a great village supporting me. She skipped #3 and posted the update as 4th update. Update Post 2: September 23, 2023 (2 days from last update) Hey everyone! I'm sorry I wasn't able to update you sooner, I've had a lot going on. Originally posted to r/AITAH. But seriously tho please tell him I said hi and that I appreciate him. Mood Spoiler: Happy ending, mostly. The OP of the BoRU responded as if they are OOP to multiple comments. ----- First Post: New Update marked with ***** Mood Spoiler: things turn out ok for OP. ro hw xb mu kv uj jp nu xp ra